Uninvited

The most offensive thing happened yesterday. It's something my BIL did. Don't worry, I already told him how unhappy I am, so I'm not just talking behind his back. Sigh.

Alan and I decided to take a nap at 4:30 p.m. Ander was refusing to sleep (even though he needed a nap, too) and around 4:45 p.m., I told Alan that I bet the second I fell asleep, the phone would ring. I don't remember anything after that. Until 5:05 p.m.

My BIL called and woke me from sleep. Normally I would not have answered, but one of my sisters had mentioned earlier in the day that she was having car trouble, and I was worried they might be stranded somewhere.

"Want to go to Ninfa's?"

"Um."

"Come on. Two of your sisters will be there. It'll be fun."

I thought about it. I had wanted Ninfa's for a while now, and I can't really visit with my sister today (her birthday), so yesterday seemed a good time.

"Let me ask Alan."

"Okay, y'all be here by 6 p.m. Oh, and your sister got off work at 5 p.m. She's waiting outside her office. Could y'all pick her up so she doesn't have to wait an hour for me?"

"Um, okay." (Thinking: "I don't want her to wait that long if she is stranded at her office. Even if her husband is being an idiot and that's why she is stranded.") (Aside: She actually had her car, working fine, with her, and didn't understand why we were picking her up. Heck, we didn't understand it either. :/)

So we rush to get ourselves and the baby ready. Alan leaves to pick up my sister from her office in Gonzales so we'll get there in time.

And then, around 5:25 p.m., while Alan is gone, picking up my sister, it happens. THE UNINVITE.

Ring. Ring. B-ring.

"Hello."

"Um, Kristy, here's the thing. Some other people are coming, and well, you have a kid..."

Yep, he uninvited me.

I explained that I woke Alan up from a nap to pick up his wife and go to a meal that Alan didn't really want to go to, and he could find another solution or Alan would surely kick his bootie, and we'd be there at 6 p.m., regardless of what BIL decided.

I don't bring Ander into situations that would be inappropriate, but I swear that Ninfa's is one of his favorite places and he sits quietly and doesn't bother others.

Sigh.

Ninfa's ended up being excellent, and to his credit, BIL apologized and acted acceptable during the meals, but geesh!

I totally understand an adult night versus a night with kids. I like an adult night on a fairly regular basis. But in a group of seven, with only one person not expecting (but notably, not complaining about either) a baby to show up, you don't make it adults-only AFTER the invite (pre-invite would have been absolutely fine) because one person might prefer no babies.

Etcetera.